My ugly hand and crack fingers ~ 爱的代价

People often think that SAHM’s (stay at home mom) life is very enjoyable and ‘senang’ and can ‘goyang kaki’ at home. Yeah maybe few of them are lucky enough can have maid to handle all the housework for them and maybe they don’t need to bathe their baby too. As for me, I will not want to have a stay-in maid nor part time maid to help me. As with their present, u can’t really enjoy your family life with their busybody eyes keep following your every steps. Until recently, I have to tolerance to agree on taking a part time maid to help me 3 days a week, and 2 hours each time. She mainly helps me to do some cleaning up works in the kitchen, bathroom, mop floor, and windows. Guess u people will start to yell “wah good life loh u.”. Believe me I have my own reason why I take up a part time maid.

Once Mumsgather has blog about reflections of SAHM – part 2:

I'm certainly not ashamed or embarassed of the fact that I'm a housewife, staying home to look after my kids and my home. The response I often get when I tell ppl that I'm a housewife is:

• "Wah. You have the good life." or "Enjoy life lah you."
• "Wah! You goyang kaki lah. So good"
• "You can tahan ah? Stay at home all day? The kids don't drive you up the wall?"
• "Don't you feel bored?"
• "Good lah you. Made such a sacrifice."
• "Don't you feel that your skills are wasted staying at home?"

Well I have my very own answer here.

• "Wah. You have the good life." or "Enjoy life lah you."

Good life ar? Wait until u sees my ugly hand and painful crack fingers than only u comment lar.

• "Wah! You goyang kaki lah. So good"

Goyang kaki? U do all the housework for me then I can goyang kaki lar.

• "You can tahan ah? Stay at home all day? The kids don't drive you up the wall?"

Why cannot tahan? I rather let kids drive me up the wall than let the JOB/bosses push me down to the hell. Am I right?

• "Don't you feel bored?"

Bored? U must be kidding, with tons of housework and the kid will make sure I always busy too.

• "Good lah you. Made such a sacrifice."

Err… this I have to admit. Can’t say that’s no sacrifice of being a SAHM but I certainly know it’s worthwhile.

• "Don't you feel that your skills are wasted staying at home?"

Never wasted lar, people sees how you raised your child and what kind of person they turn into when they grew up. This needs such a good skills and great effort to accomplish my duties.

Winter is around the corner, and it’s very cold now. My skin and hands are very dry due to the low humidity in the air, and fingers started to dry and crack again. Anyhow, this isn’t the first time my fingers crack but since I became SAHM. With here, I would like to show u my ugly hand and crack fingers due to often wet while doing housework and cooking. I have a sensitive skin and hand. I wearing glove whenever I do the housework and washing up but I don’t like to wear it when cooking. Wearing glove is a bit troublesome and u can’t really feel the texture of your food u going to cook. I like to cook and I like to feel it and test it and examine it with my finger. Therefore, due to my sensitive skin, my finger started to crack and fungus started to grew in my nails. That cracks are painful especially at night, I have to put on thick cream and plaster them before I go to bed. Usually I have 3 or 4 out of 10 fingers are plastered every night. Or else I can’t go to asleep, as it’s too painful and dry because of the dry air in the air-cond room. Been seeing doctor and seek for treatment, what doctor advice is to avoid of wetting my hands anymore, by then it can cure in at least 6 months period. Does u think it’s possible for a SAHM without a maid to avoid touching water for that long of period? That’s is my reason why I taking up a part time now, as she will help me on the wet jobs by then can minor down my chances of wetting my hand. Hubby pity to see my painful fingers and felt sorry to my sleepless night mah.. :D

I used to felt embarrassed or ashamed with my ugly hand when meeting up friends, but I am not anymore after I blog about it here. During my KL trip, I met up my ex-colleagues. Hearing them making the same statement like “shiaulin so good lar, now became 少奶奶 ‘siu nai-nai’ no need to worry about work, etc…” By that time, I felt like explaining but somehow I was 欲言又止speechless.

Have I scare u off my blog now? Do I scare u out of making decision of become a SAHM? I hope I am not; otherwise, your kids will blame me on pulling their mummy aback of becomes their SAHM.

Simply likes this phrase very much, it makes me feel so 'kembang' :D

"Nothing to feel embarass about, it just war hero showing the scars of war...you should feel proud...

Commented by a friend Pak Soo,

# posted by SooHK : October 25, 2005 9:06 PM